Chapters
Chapter 1: The Shock, The Disbelief, The Horror
Chapter 2: Re-writing the Script
Chapter 3: Trapped in an Agonising Storm of Emotions
Song for Kristian by Carsten Emil Bates, Kristian’s brother
Chapter 4: Wearing a Mask
Chapter 5: Resisting or Craving Physical Contact
Chapter 6: Grieving in Your Own Way and Own Time
Chapter 7: Referring to Your Child as “The Body”
Chapter 8: The Day of the Funeral and After
Chapter 9: The Family’s Grief
Chapter 10: Bizarre Thoughts, Actions and Secrets
Chapter 11: Memory Triggers: Sights, Sounds, Smells, Possessions
Chapter 12: The Inquest
Chapter 13: Handling Insensitivity from Others
Chapter 14: Firsts of Everything
Chapter 15: The Domino Effect
Chapter 16: Re-focusing Your Energies on the Living
Chapter 17: Dispelling Suicide Myths
Chapter 18: Professional Views
Chapter 19: Life after Death
Chapter 20: Coping Strategies
Chapter 21: The Years Ahead
Chapter 22: Inspirational Thoughts
Chapter 23: Hope, Laughter and Music
Chapter 24: Recommended Books and Resources
Chapter 25: Kristian’s Story
Conclusion
Poem for Kristian by Lauren Erica, aged 9, Kristian’s sister
The White Dove Project
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